What dating advice needs to be debunked

Dating tips & positive food for thought for plus size women

Hopefully by now we can all agree that Valentine's Day is, well let's say a little bit silly. The last time I stressed myself out about it was when I was around 13 years old. I was about to print out the Valentine's Day cards for my classmates and suddenly the printer cartridge was empty. It's amazing how early society (or in this case my teacher) starts to instill this nonsense on us:Romance is important. Don't screw it up, children. Maybe that's why data still feels like a duty to me, even in adulthood. And I think I'm not the only one feeling this way. With a few exceptions, most people find dating just plain tiring. But we have to go through that if we want to climb the next level of the ladder of love - that is, we want a serious relationship.
And if you're plus-sized (or if your looks don't conform to mainstream beauty ideals in some other way), you have to face additional challenges. There is no equal opportunity in the dating world. No fair competition. And it's rubbish to pretend it is. But having a bigger body doesn't have to be a deal breaker - even if it might seem like that.

The internet is filled with stories of women who have suffered fat shaming or been bullied on dating sites. And yes, it's incredibly important to tell these stories! But they are only part of the reality. Always looking at the negative side can mean that plus-size women at some point no longer dare to meet new people; that they completely give up dating out of fear.
So today I would like to take a more positive look at the subject. For this I turned to Marie Southard Ospina, a journalist, style blogger and badass representative of the body positivity movement. She is a plus size woman who has had a lot of dating experience and has been in a happy relationship for a few years. A small child with her friend. With her help, I've put together a list of reminders to keep in mind when you plunge into the dating world - whether you're a nervous newbie or a seasoned pro and don't feel like bullshit anymore.

Before we start, some bad news: Unfortunately, a certain amount of BS is part of dating, no matter what size you wear. But the good news is, your figure doesn't matter as much as you might think. So click through the slideshow, which should help you to stop approaching the topic in such a negative and tense manner, but rather realistically and curiously.