How did Jesus confront narcissists

The evangelists portray the personality of Jesus as extremely divided. From "turning the other cheek" to "killing one's enemies", the spectrum of his actions and instructions is reminiscent of a narcissistic personality disorder.

Everyone has narcissistic traits. A narcissistic personality disorder (NPS) is, however, characterized by a strongly deficient empathy, a complete overestimation of one's own abilities and an extremely strong desire for recognition. Unrealistic claims, expectations and ideologies as well as image cultivation, imposing, boasting and even conceiting satisfy the weak self-esteem. People with NPS live more in appearance than in reality. This not only leads to problems in adapting to the living environment, but also leads to an emotional abuse of those around them in order to increase the ego at the expense of others. In addition to the change between felt grandiosity and suicidal self-doubt, such a weak self also leads to a chronically latent anger, which can explode at the slightest criticism and perceived hurt. NPS begins in early adulthood and manifests itself in many areas of life. Affected people strive for power and domination and act seductively and manipulatively. The psychoanalyst Ernest Jones described narcissistic personality disorder (NPS) as a god complex, as it is characterized, among other things, by omnipotence and omniscience fantasies.

Whether the historically "real miracle healer" Jesus suffered from this can no longer be determined, but the authors of the Gospels did not want to describe an ordinary, but a "divine" person. How could this be done better and more credibly than with the psychological diagnostic criteria, which already pointed out the readers in antiquity to a God complex?

Lack of empathy

A major criterion for diagnosing NPS is lack of empathy. The protagonist of the Gospels not only does not receive his mother and brothers and sisters when they visit him (Mt 12.48, Lk 8.20-21). He never mentions his foster father, who raised, fed and trained him. He apparently broke off all contact with him.

As a prophet, he was able to foresee the fate of his disciple Judas, but he is not interested in his suicide (Mt 27: 3–5). The further fate of his apostles and all the female disciples who love him passes him by. He lives in his world.

Omnipotence fantasies and overconfidence

Power or omnipotence fantasies? Ability or Limitless Overconfidence? No, he cannot heal everyone and is not accepted by everyone as the Son of God (Lk4: 28-29). Completely narcissistic, however, in his defense he immediately resorts to reversing guilt (Matt. The others are to blame if he cannot heal them. It is due to their lack of faith (Mt 13: 53-58). Since everyone realizes that his omnipotence is failing (Lk 4,28-30), he prophesies bad things for them in order not to stand there completely helpless (Matt 11: 20-24; Matt 23: 37-39).

It is also characteristic that, as a narcissist, he does not need to provide evidence of his brilliant abilities. If the Pharisees do not want to answer his narcissistic-theological confusion, then he does not need to answer them (Mt 22: 41-46) nor to demonstrate anything in terms of miracles (Mt 16: 1-4). When asked where he gets the right to do and claim such a thing from, he evades with narcissistic arrogance (Mt 21: 23-27) by simply walking. Nor do the rules apply to the narcissist as they do to everyone else. He can do what he wants on the Sabbath (Mt 12, 1–14) and thereby refer to higher things.

omniscience

What better way to demonstrate omniscience than to have someone predict the future. As soon as he was thrown out of the temple by rioting (Mt 21:12), the protagonist of the novel knows that no stone will be left unturned in the temple in Jerusalem (Mt 24.2) when the lightning (sign of the Legio Fulminata) Glows from east to west (Mt 24,27) when the vultures (legionary eagles) appear at the carcass (Mt 24,28), everyone hears of war (Mt 24,6), famines and plagues spread as well as kingdom against kingdom and people fights against the people (Mt 24,7). The fact that he can know this is of course due to the fact that the novel was only written after these events - that is, after the year 70. The authors weren't stupid when they invented it.

If there is nothing to prophesy, then the protagonist in his narcissistic omniscience simply knows that he is right, that all other children are stupid (Lk 7:32) and that their opinions are wrong (Matt. 12:30). Basta!

recognition

Furthermore, the authors attached importance to the fact that their protagonist seeks the NSP-typical recognition and that his fellow men have to confirm his uniqueness. The series of prominent figures who are said to recognize him as brilliant begins with the ancient prophets, continues through John the Baptist (Mt 3: 13-15), the confirmation of Peter (Mt 16: 15-17) and the apostles ( Mt 17: 1-9) to the high priests, who are supposed to put the title "Son of God" in his mouth (Lk 22.70). Even Pilate is told that it is he who calls him king (Lk 23: 3). But he also recognizes that he has a word distortion in front of him and wants to set him free (Mt 27:23). Only in front of the real king of the Judeans, Herod, does the protagonist prefer to remain silent (Lk 23,9), because a narcissist cannot recognize another king.

Envy is the most honest form of recognition for the narcissist. Therefore the hero of the novel has to be handed over to the Romans out of envy (Mt 27:18).

Mood swings and changes of opinion

Another criterion of the NPS is the extreme mood swings due to poor self-esteem. What strikes first when reading the Gospels is the discrepancy between the required unconditional love for neighbor and enemy (Mt 5:44; Mt 22:39; Lk 6:27), at which the believers should also turn the other cheek (Mt 5 , 39; Lk 6.29) and the fantasies of omnipotence, hate and destruction towards everything that eludes the will of the narcissist. The protagonist Jesus preaches love, but not only lets a fig tree wither, which at this time of year does not bear fruit and therefore cannot satisfy it (Mt 21:19). Annoyed that a blind man attributes his healing to God and not to him as a narcissist (Lk 18:43), the figure Jesus also sees himself as a worldly king, whose disciples are to bring each of his enemies and kill them in front of his own eyes (Lk 19:27) ). This king came to throw fire on the earth, to take peace and to divide families (Lk 12: 49-53). The narcissist wants to see revenge through annihilation if there is no deification.

Lovebombing and Flying Monkeys

Experienced narcissists very quickly recognize the thoughts, feelings and intentions of their fellow human beings, with which they can lull them (love bombing) and turn them into henchmen (flying monkeys). The fictional character Jesus also senses the intentions of the Pharisees and Sadducees (Lk 5:22) and knows the weak points of the rich (Lk 18: 18-23). As the protagonist, he has an unmistakable feeling for who his victims could be and how he can wrap them around his finger. So Jesus goes for a walk on the Sea of ​​Galilee and calls fishermen to drop their nets and follow him (Mt 4: 18-22). And these jump immediately. But how does this narcissist know with what wishes and hopes he can seduce his victims? The names give it away: Yeschua, Petros, Barjonim, Kananäus, Zelotes, Iscariot (Sikarius), Boanerges, Alphaios and Maria are ambiguous play on words and can also be translated as savior, bellhammers, rebels, rebels, rebels, knifers, son of thunder, deserter and Cow. Nomen est omen. The authors of the Gospels had a sense of humor. If you want to be king of rebels, you immediately know which topics to address in order to turn these people into fans and flying monkeys.

Gas lighting and isolation

In order for enthusiastic followers to become fanatical and obedient disciples, they must first be disoriented. The changing desires of a narcissist can hardly be fulfilled, but those who keep the Sermon on the Mount should be saved (Mt 5: 1–12) and belong to their elect (Mt 5: 13–16). From these, privileged co-workers are then publicly selected (Mt 10.1–4; Lk 6.12–16) and entrusted with special tasks (Mt 10.5–42).

Tasks they can only fail at, because failure is intentional and delights the narcissist, who is exalted by the fact that others are humiliated. Or as the fictional character Jesus puts it: whoever humbles himself will be exalted with him and the smallest will be the greatest (Lk 22:26). Self-abandonment is required (Lk 9.23-24). This game of self-exaltation by humiliating others also takes place verbally. Compared to Jesus all others are stupid if they do not understand his parables and speeches (Mt 15:16). Assignments of guilt, accusations and insults are part of the standard repertoire, especially when his wishes are not fulfilled (Mt 26.40; Mk 14.37-42; Lk 22.45-46). He also likes to distribute tin medals by declaring Peter to be the founder of a sect (Mt 16:18) and then withdrawing this recognition from him the next moment by insulting him as Satan and chasing him away (Mt 16:23). The narcissist also uses public humiliation and hints to act out for self-exaltation. Judas is accused of treason in front of the assembled team (Lk 22:21) and Peter is told in front of all the disciples that he will deny his Lord (Lk 22:34). In order to remain boss forever, the protagonist disqualifies both as possible successors.

So that the victims who are disoriented with the carrot, stick and twisting the truth (technical term gaslighting) do not receive advice and help from outside, the narcissist also orders the isolation from friends and family (Mt 10.37-; Mt 19.27-30; Lk 14.26 ). Welcome to the sect.

Staged end

The self-esteem of a narcissist fluctuates between a perceived divine omnipotence and a suicidal mood. The protagonist Jesus has promised his disciples the kingdom of God and suspects that he cannot achieve it. His only chance as a narcissist to maintain his image of unattainable and immortal grandiosity is "meaningful" self-sacrifice and the promise of resurrection. Nobody beats a narcissist, at least in his portrayal of things. If he does not want to be stoned as a ridiculous blasphemer, he must make himself king of rebels in order to be stylishly executed - feared by Romans and high priests. He cleverly asks his Flying Monkeys whether they want to exchange their cloaks for swords (Lk 22:36), knowing full well that they have some and will use them (Mt 26:51). A severed ear - with the hint that he could easily win a war at any time - is enough for him when he is arrested (Matt. He doesn't want to be slaughtered right away. The betrayal of Judas was a betrayal of Judas so that the narcissist would be arrested and executed as the leader of an armed rebel group and "king".

The exhilaration of communicating at eye level with a real king like Herod (Lk 23.9) quickly gives way to despair. On the cross he not only feels completely abandoned by his "God" (Mt 27:46).

The protagonist with the god complex dies for his image in the novel. All but him see reality (Mt 27: 39-44; Lk 23: 35-39). He wants to help everyone, he cannot help himself. He wants to cure everyone, but he does not see his own illness. He leaves his victims perplexed and traumatized. A state that is maintained by his sect to this day.

Danger recognized ...

There are many support groups and educational videos in which both narcissists and victims of abuse can learn to see through toxic relationships, addictions, and life's lies. But many therapists are not yet fully aware of the amount and scope of abuse in the religious and esoteric scene. Much more education is desired here.