How come I don't understand my sexuality


Sexuality is part of human life. It contributes to mental well-being. Likewise, mental health problems can interfere with desire and sex life. Some people renounce sexuality and develop in other areas of life. Others suffer because they have problems with their sex life, do not have intimate relationships, or encounter rejection because of their sexual orientation. Acting out your sexuality is not always easy - but you should have the courage to talk about it.

Sex life

Sexuality is part of the human being and covers the need for intimacy, love, tenderness, warmth and closeness. It unites body, mind and soul. It also creates social relationships. A fulfilled sexuality is good for your health.

The desires, needs, emotions and behaviors related to emotional life and sexuality are diverse and complex. One can live out one's sexuality in many different ways.

Sexuality is demanding and fragile at the same time. It requires agreement and an effort to understand the person opposite. If the needs and preferences of those involved do not match, sexuality can cause a lot of suffering.

It is important to do your research and stay up to date on this issue, which affects everyone from a young age. Associations like Sexuelle Gesundheit Schweiz ( offer a lot of information and can advise you if necessary.

Sexuality and Mental Health

A fulfilled sexuality contributes to psychological well-being. An unsatisfactory or difficult sex life, on the other hand, can be the cause of psychological problems or depression. Relationship problems, sexual disorders (physical or emotional), or infertility can upset mental health.

The social pressure on sexual activity, gender roles, body image or even sexual orientation can sometimes lead to problems - especially among young people. Women can be exposed to particular stresses, such as pregnancy or termination of pregnancy, which can also affect their psychological well-being.

It is important to pay close attention to these sexual issues and not hesitate to contact a sexual health center. You can find the relevant addresses here. You can also contact a sexology or sex therapy specialist in your area.

Mental disorders and sexuality

Sexuality is influenced by a multitude of elements. Ailing mental health, fatigue, stress or mental problems can negatively affect pleasure and sex life.

Interpersonal relationships and emotions are usually more difficult to act out in difficult times. Balancing a fulfilling relationship and sex life with one's own vulnerabilities can be a real challenge in everyday life.

Drugs used to treat certain mental disorders can cause side effects such as decreased libido, difficulty arousal and orgasm in both sexes, and affect sexuality. With such problems, drug therapy can be adjusted. It is important to have the confidence to speak to a healthcare professional or a professional from a sexual health center to find a satisfactory solution.

Lack of sex life

Sometimes it can be a person's free choice to forego an active sex life. There are other forms of self-actualization that enable a full life. Mental or emotional satisfaction and personal development can also be obtained through creative, cultural or social activities. Further education and learning something new contributes to the development of one's own skills and stimulates the mind. Friendly relationships enable an emotional life outside of a traditional couple relationship. There are also couples who do not have a sexual relationship.

Occasionally, an illness, disability, bad experience, or trouble finding a partner can make it difficult for someone to have a fulfilling sex life. Such situations can be stressful for those affected. You should dare to speak to a medical professional or a professional from a sexual health center (see addresses here)

Sexual orientation and gender identity

Our society finds it difficult to accept "being different" and tends to marginalize people who are considered "different".

With this in mind, being gay, lesbian or bisexual and having a fulfilling sex life is not easy. It can also be difficult to feel in the wrong body. Feeling different because of their sexual orientation and / or gender identity can lead to rejection or incomprehension from their family, their environment or society. She can experience verbal or even physical attacks.

Such negative experiences can be traumatic. They cause psychological distress, cause anxiety disorders or sociophobias (fear of other people) and lead to isolation. They can lead to depression or even suicidal thoughts and attempts.

It is important not to be left alone with your suffering and to talk to someone you trust or a specialist about it. LGBT clubs (LGBT = Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) can advise and help you. In self-help groups, where people with similar or the same life experiences come together, you can share your experiences, feel understood and feel less alone. You can find addresses from your region here.