Accidentally caught a partner cheating?
Should you ever forgive a cheating partner?
Would you forgive a partner who cheated on you? Should you? Here are a few thoughts that can help you decide:
Let's get that out of the way first.
There is absolutely no excuse for cheating.
If a partner cheats on you, you have every right to leave if you want.
When your lover is cheating on you, it clearly shows that they don't respect you, value you, or care about your feelings.
When your lover you are deliberately cheating on yourself by deliberately indulging in an act that they know will break your heart and destroy your life.
And yet they choose to indulge their carnal desires without wasting time realizing the world pain they would go through you once they get caught.
Do you want to go away
Once you find out that your partner is cheating on you or cheating on you, every cell in your body is telling you to go away forever. And guess what, that's the best you can do After all, the one person you blindly trusted with your life just tossed your love, respect, and trust in the trash by betraying yourself.
But once the insane rush of adrenaline and anger subsides, let's think again. How many of you can end it all and walk away, especially after all the story you two share? How many of you can harden your heart and see your partner crawl on their knees and ask you to forgive them without giving them a second chance?
It is always easier to assume that you know what is right until you are forced to experience it for yourself.
Getting away from a cheating partner is the strongest and safest thing you can do. But then again, if your mind tells you to get out of the relationship but your heart wants to forgive your lover in the hope that they would never hurt you again, well, read on.
The intelligent person and the desire to cheat
Humans are one of the few species who learn through the experience of others and can distinguish right from wrong without having to experience anything themselves.
But some people are stupid. It takes more than life lessons and lessons about morals to understand the value and importance of a romantic relationship or marriage.
They know that cheating is wrong and they understand the consequences of cheating, yet they wonder how it would feel to cheat on a partner. You're constantly eyeing and fantasizing about others, wondering how it might feel to meet someone or sleep with someone else. [Quiz: Are you ever going to cheat on your lover? P.S. This quiz won't lie!]
If a person wants to cheat on their husband or wife, or boyfriend or girlfriend, why into a relationship in the first place, you can ask. But that is the problem with being human. We always question ourselves with every decision, even after we have made it. And to make things worse, people suffer from the pesky addiction of always wondering if there is anything better out there.
For some of us all we have to do is test the water, taste the grass on the other side of the fence, or at least take a look the other side just to see what it's about.
Being curious isn't always bad. But if you know the consequences and still decide to make the decision to cheat on a partner who loves you, well what can I say?
The two types of scammers
When it comes to spouse cheating there are two types of scammers.
# 1 The random cheater. This is the type of partner who * accidentally * cheats on a partner in the heat of the moment. Maybe it's a stolen kiss with an ex or crush, a drunken escapade that went wrong, or a friendly date that was just ripped off. It's not really excusable, but we have to keep in mind that the act was not premeditated.
# 2 The intentional cheater. The second type of cheater is the worse type, the one who knows exactly what he's getting into. They understand that it is wrong to cheat on a partner and yet they choose to do it. And what's worse, they do everything possible to cover their trail so that they can still pretend they have nothing behind their lover's back.
Do you forgive a cheating lover?
Meeting people every day we like or find attractive. And sometimes a person we find attractive at work may start to find us attractive in return. Would you never ask yourself "what if?" ?? Wouldn't you feel good knowing that someone you find attractive values you and wants to spend time with you?
Life is all about thin red lines, conscience and morals. And sometimes it's easy to get lost. So if you find out that your partner cheated on you, what would you want to do? Would you forgive them if the escape thing was a temporary misstep? Would you go away if it was a premeditated conspiracy where your partner went to a very long time trying to hide it for years?
We are all different and we live in different circumstances. So if you are wondering whether to forgive a fraudulent partner, you are the only one who can make that decision.
Is it the first time?
This is probably the biggest factor that can help your sanity. Has your partner cheated on you before? Do you have reason to believe that your partner was busy with someone else before you caught him or her?
The first time your partner got into someone else's arms is never excusable, but it is something to think about and maybe, forgiving.
We all make mistakes, and sometimes we get too confused before realizing that we are in the wrong place and doing the wrong things. It could be a weak moment or a brief failure that blinded your partner and drove them on the path of adultery.
But if your partner has cheated on you more than once, chances are they either don't respect you or care enough about you to hold back when an illicit opportunity presents itself. And as much as you want to forgive them and give them another chance, don't do that. Just go away.
Some partners are serial cheaters, and no matter how much you want to change them or help them see how valuable the relationship is, cheating is ingrained in their system. And they will always find a sneaky way to scam you in hopes of not being able to catch you.
Should you forgive a fraudulent partner?
It depends how you see it. Would you choose to point all of your fingers at your partner and blame them for it?
Or would you blame them for this and look inward and try to understand why your partner might have got lost first? Was there something missing in the relationship? Did you both fall apart? And above all: is the relationship worth holding on and fighting for?
Most of the time, there can't be any reason or guilt on your part that caused your partner to get lost. Maybe they just found one opportunity and they took it without thinking about the consequences. What are you going to do about it?
The silver of cheating
No good comes out of an affair, but if you do choose to see it, you could seek a silver lining through the mess.
Sometimes it takes a little peek at the other side of the fence for a few curious people to really understand that what they already have is actually better. When a person cheats on their lover, they realize the value of the relationship, even if they have forgotten all about it. They understand that the grass isn't really greener on the other hand, and they begin to appreciate the relationship with their spouse a lot more.
If this is the first time your partner has cheated on you and you want to forgive them, you need to understand that you are making a huge mistake in forgiving them. But if that's what you do, you can do so with the comfort of knowing that your partner's hands were burned once and likely they will never choose to go that route again.
It's always hard to trust someone who cheated on you and broke your heart. But if you want to forgive a cheating partner and give them another chance, make sure it is the last chance you will give them in their life!
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